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1. Do not limit yourself - open yourself up to ALL possibilities! Think outside the box, be flexible.
2. Take five (minutes) - be silent and still; and in this white space, hear your inner wisdom.
3. Create a Life Plan for your desired goals. A good plan is measurable - it details the desired outcome, the action-steps required, the execution process and a time frame for achieving the desired goal.
4. Sometimes we allow our mental barriers to stop us from achieving our dreams. We become paralysed with fear and soon we are off in the land of worst-case scenarios. At such times, you have to get out of your head! You need to take a big leap of faith and just one small first step; that is all you need to do - like the Nike slogan says, "Just Do It".
5. Turn a Challenge into a Game:
If you're challenged by a project, change your mind-set by turning the challenge into a game; by turning the project into a game you will infuse it with a sense of fun and light-heartedness. This will help shift pressure into excitement.
6. If you are stuck with a problem, unclear of how to move forward, ask yourself, "What do i want to see happen here?" or "What do i want to achieve from this situation?"
Then working from this end-goal, identify your next action-step.
7. Goal Achievement:
You rarely achieve vague goals - if you don't know where you're headed, you won't ever get there!
You want to be very clear and specific about what you wish to achieve; and when you define it as so, it will also help to illuminate the exact action-steps that you will need to take in order to achieve it.
Copyright 2011 - 2012 Miranda Kaur All Rights Reserved
Business Etiquette Tips:
1. The Professional Handshake:
You give a handshake when you meet or greet someone, when you bid them farewell and when sealing a deal.
Give a firm handshake - a limp handshake can create an unfavourable impression.
If you're seated, regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, you will want to stand to give a handshake.
2. Networking:
It takes less than a minute for first impressions to be created - so you will want to pay attention to how you carry yourself, the image you project and how and what you say.
3. Conversation:
When engaged in a conversation, you want to spend 80% of the conversation listening to the other party and 20% to talking. This will help you to learn more about the other party's concerns and requirements.
4. Winning Conversations:
Smile because it's infectious and it makes you approachable.
Be genuinely interested in others; ask questions; be curious.
Elevate the interaction with an optimistic attitude. A gloomy disposition will shut down the conversation - note your beliefs and thoughts because they drive your behaviour.
5. Express your Appreciation:
The power of expressing your appreciation is not to be under-estimated; not only is it good manners, but people are more than likely to help you again if they know their efforts are appreciated and acknowledged!
Express your appreciation when someone has assisted you, encouraged you or when you've learnt from another. Express your appreciation when you've received a business introduction, a referral or an opportunity. Express your appreciation when someone has taken the time to meet with you, shared their advice and offered you guidance.
While a hand-written note would be ideal, for practical purposes, an email message will suffice. Saying "Thank you" or any other words that express your appreciation will not only make you feel good but will also be valued by the other party.
Copyright 2011 - 2012 Miranda Kaur All Rights Reserved
Snippets:
1. The Indecision Dilemma:
When we are unable to make a decision it is because we want the full details and the outcome upfront before we will commit to the specific situation or direction; being unsure of our future, the uncertainty, the "not knowing" of the details and the consequences of our action stops us from taking action.
In such instances, aim for incorporating a gradual change by taking baby-steps.
2. Procrastination:
When you are frozen into inaction, taking the smallest possible action will break the cycle and put you back in the driver's seat.
Attend to the task with the highest priority first and break it down into small manageable chunks of action-steps. Stay focused on the task until it is completed before moving onto the next task.
3. The good that you do may be a drop in the ocean but never doubt its ripple effect!
4. No matter what your history is or what your circumstances are, dream BIG! Then ACT on your dreams to make them a REALITY!
5. Formula for Success: Step out of your comfort zone + Create Opportunities = Achieving your goals!
6. Set goals for what you BELIEVE you can achieve and not for what you WANT or think you NEED.
7. Enough with the Labels!
"I failed" Does Not equate to "I am a Failure". "I failed" refers to an action that you may have taken and that which did not result in achieving your desired outcome.
It's this specific ACTION that failed; the individual that's you, did not fail! And it's the failed action that needs to be worked on, either through a modification or changing it altogether.
A final thought - by choosing to wear the "I am a failure" label, you are effectively giving yourself permission to limit your progress ie you are in essence, justifying to yourself the reason that stops you from progressing further!
8. I was asked the following question at a recent Workshop:
"My colleague is very negative and it gets to me. How can i help him to change?"
Here is what i shared:
First of, the question to ask here is why is another's behaviour affecting me? Why would i allow another's behaviour to invade my mind space and INFLUENCE how i feel, think or react? When we allow this, we are essentially giving our personal power away!
Second, an individual will change only if he or she wants to. We cannot cajole nor demand that they change or conform to our standards of behaviour. Our standards may be appropriate for us but that may not be the case for another.
The individual may have his or her own standards of behaviour and we may not approve of these standards. However, we have to respect the fact that there are many different paces and levels of learning in this journey called Life. We may not all travel at the same time nor take the same roads. All we can do is set an example by living our lives according to our truth and integrity.
9. Failures lead to Greatness:
It's not that we fall, but how we deal with it, that matters. Do we remain down and out? Or do we get right back up and into the game again?
Our falls and mistakes are the foundations of our successes - they allow us to learn not only where we went wrong, but also where we went right. They offer us the opportunities to re-tweak details, to re-calibrate and to re-focus.
If you're in the depths of despair or feeling discouraged, know that this will pass - just as morning comes after a dark night, failures lead to greatness - but only if you learn from them.
10. Your intentions set up your experiences.
Set the intention that today you will honour your authenticity, embrace your unique qualities and make choices that resonate with your inner compass.
11. Career Transitions:
Whilst a career transition can be challenging, it can also be a window of opportunity that allows you to renew, re-design and re-focus on your life and career goals. This crossroad does not need to be all doom-and-gloom, it can be the ideal time to follow your passion, create your dream career and explore options that perhaps previously were not possible or available.
The different directions available to you may overwhelm you and the fear of making the wrong decision for your next career-step may very well paralyse you into inaction too. However, it's imperative that you make a decision as only upon making one will your circumstances begin to change. The alternative will find you drifting aimlessly. It's important to recognise too, that an indecision is a decision in itself - that being that the situation remains the same.
Begin by establishing your personal values and desired life and career goals; use these as the barometer to help you identify what or where you need to focus on initially. Ask yourself if the choices that you are making are taking you closer or further away from your personal values and desired goals. Follow this up by recalibrating as you gather further information and receive feedback.
12. "Be water my friend." - Bruce Lee:
Just as soft water dissolves many hard substances - when involved in a disagreement, adopting a soft response to it will be far more effective than an in-your-face reaction. Be soft, be gracious, be water.
Just as water takes on the shape of the vessel it's poured into - step into the shoes of the other party to experience and understand the situation from their perspective. Be conscious, be open, be water.
13. Have a Life!
We spend so much of our time living in the future; while it's essential to have a Life Plan, we must not forget to live life either. It's easy to become consumed with the different goals we wish to achieve, but we must not forget to see the big picture of Life.
We want to value our everyday lives - the mundane, the routine, the highs and the lows. We want to value time spent with loved ones, sharing a kind word with the individual who needs it, the unexpected downpour, the smell of freshly cut grass; this is what gives us a balanced perspective and helps us to achieve our goals and navigate through Life's challenges with ease.
So while you're headed towards your destination, enjoy the journey too by living in the Present Time, the Now, the Todays!
14. Trust:
Trust holds relationships together.
Trust is when you connect with your clients because you get them, you understand their needs or requirements.
Trust is when you keep your word.
Trust is when you deliver your service or product as agreed.
Trust leads to respect and ultimately, client-loyalty.
15. Your thoughts matter because they set up what you will experience. If you wish to succeed in a specific situation then focus on succeeding. Choose to observe thoughts that support your vision. Use language that serves you. Refuse to listen to anything less from others too by creating a negative-free zone around you.
16. Make the SPACE:
Downsize, donate or dispose - clear out the old baggage, clear out what's not working, clear out what you've not used in the past 6 months. Make the SPACE, both in the emotional and physical sense of the word to allow something new to come into your life.
And if you have difficulties letting the emotions / relationships / items go, then ask yourself what is the underlying cause; what is the root cause of the fear, for hanging on to these situations or items.
17. Sometimes our world falls apart, just so we can re-build it, stronger than ever.
18. If you don't approve of yourself, how can others?
19. We create our reality - our external world reflects our perceptions, attitudes and beliefs.
20. Our experiences are the result of the choices we make - not of our environment.
21. Strive to be WHOLE, not good.
22. We may be influenced by others but we alone make our choices.
23. Give yourself a break when you make a mistake!
You may not have got it right the first time around or done as well as you intended - but instead of beating yourself up, look at it as a learning opportunity.
24. You were not created to meet someone else's standards.
You were created to stand in your own light, to shine brightly in your uniqueness!
25. Your potential is limitless - it knows no boundaries or set paths that it has to follow.
26. If you don't like where you are headed, change direction.
27. Don't let your past determine your future.
28. Ruminating about the past leads to stagnation. Worrying about the future leads to anxiety.
Focusing in the present time is about reality and about taking the required action that will help achieve our desired goals.
29. Don't look for acceptance from others; look for acceptance from within yourself.
30. Don't focus on the problem, focus on the solution.
31. Your thoughts define your reality. If you want to play a bigger game, think BIGGER!
32. Don't focus on your weaknesses, focus on developing your strengths.
33. We're all born with potential - don't allow your fears to hold you back from yours.
34. The disappointments and failures that we experience today, are tomorrow's achievements.
35. If what you are doing is not working or not making you happy, then it's time for a re-think.
It's never ever too late to change course.
36. It's what we do, the actions that we take, that matter the most - not what we say or how we say it.
37. You're able to appreciate greatness in others because it resonates with the greatness within you.
38. With every sunset there is a sunrise; with every ending there is a new beginning.
Let go of what is not working, to make the space for something new to come in.
39. Our thoughts are just that - thoughts. They do not have any power.
We can choose to allow them to control our emotions, our actions and our lives. Or we can choose to challenge them with facts and supportive thoughts.
40. You can do or achieve anything that your heart desires.
There isn't any obstacle that you can't work over or around or a mountain that's too high to climb.
The question is, do you BELIEVE in your vision? Can you feel it? Can you taste it?
41. Do not change yourself to fit in - change to evolve.
Copyright 2011 - 2012 Miranda Kaur All Rights Reserved
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